It took me a long time to realize that men are actually sensitive. They are fragile. They are delicate. They only can be tough as love or they can be weak but act tough. When men are weak like the devil, they fall for materialism, worldly things, sex, media, and do all kinds of abuses with or without their acknowledgment. In other words, they may or may not be abusing another person unwittingly. If they know they are hurting others, then they must be fighting so hard not to cry or look at faults even these faults weren't his.
Men were modeled to be dominant. Men were taught to be tough. Men were taught to suppress their emotions. So, with their suppressed emotions, they find another way to release their outlet in unhealthy ways. The unhealthy ways vary widely from passive to aggressive behaviors that can harm other people including their loved ones. They also can act like terrible twos. They overcompensate for their painful experiences and/or background through negative emotions and/or behaviors.
Men who are loved care about others, period. They will work hard for others. They love themselves so much that they can love their significant others. In other words, they flourish their loved ones. They have a high level of respect for themselves and others. They even will stay that way. They would not allow anything to change him regardless how extremely difficult things can be.
I don't have brothers or boys myself but I do know this: raise boys with love, lots of love; teach and model them problem-solving; and provide unconditional love inside out.
I have seen men change from being abusive to lovable. He has to choose to change himself. "He loves his wife loves himself." Ephesians 5:28 This verse means that he has to love himself before he can love others. This also applies to anyone including women and children.
Health
Health Coach, Wellness, and Personal Health
Wednesday, August 16, 2017
Friday, May 20, 2016
Gender Restroom
With the new policy Target adopted for transgender person using either gender restroom, it is great for a single restroom such as portable potty at an outdoor events. Portable potty is perfect for either genders. I do not shop at Target so I cannot speak for what their restroom sign looks like.
However, with multiple restroom booths open to both genders post greater potential to crime. I do not think it belongs to our rape and pornography culture especially with sex offenders, and child sex predators. I feel it also posts a greater potential risk to boundary issues. In addition, in my home state, there is a high rate of sex trafficking. With the transgender allowance in multiple booth restroom, I do not feel the new transgender restroom wouldn't help reducing the sex problem in our society.
For example, a person noted that the restroom is open to both genders and goes in taking advantage of an opportunity for a sex victim. Not many children are strong enough to say no. Also, they often find themselves helpless. So many children live in a controlling family so when the child approaches an adult with controlling behavior, the child would think it is okay to listen to that stranger because of where the child comes from.
As a mother, I have to work harder to stay with my children. The transgender restroom especially in multiple booth restroom gives less independence, privacy, security, and safety especially in restroom for children.
As much we want to make a better place for our children, an individual restroom is ideal for transgender person. Maybe companies and stores can offer an individual restroom similar to portable potty.
I propose the rules of nongender specified restroom:
However, with multiple restroom booths open to both genders post greater potential to crime. I do not think it belongs to our rape and pornography culture especially with sex offenders, and child sex predators. I feel it also posts a greater potential risk to boundary issues. In addition, in my home state, there is a high rate of sex trafficking. With the transgender allowance in multiple booth restroom, I do not feel the new transgender restroom wouldn't help reducing the sex problem in our society.
For example, a person noted that the restroom is open to both genders and goes in taking advantage of an opportunity for a sex victim. Not many children are strong enough to say no. Also, they often find themselves helpless. So many children live in a controlling family so when the child approaches an adult with controlling behavior, the child would think it is okay to listen to that stranger because of where the child comes from.
As a mother, I have to work harder to stay with my children. The transgender restroom especially in multiple booth restroom gives less independence, privacy, security, and safety especially in restroom for children.
As much we want to make a better place for our children, an individual restroom is ideal for transgender person. Maybe companies and stores can offer an individual restroom similar to portable potty.
I propose the rules of nongender specified restroom:
- Individual use
- Family use
- Parental supervision by the restroom door
Monday, August 5, 2013
Why Should You Drink Water?
Hydrolysis – it takes water to break down nutrients from the food you eat.
Cleanse – it takes water to pick up the wastes from your body’s cellular/metabolic work
pH balance – your body works daily to balance your blood to the range of 7.35 to 7.45 pH. The water helps your body to maintain the pH scale your body needs.
Kidney health – your kidneys do work hard to filter out any toxics in your body. The kidneys need water to do the filter work.
Health – your body is made more than two-third of water. Water is an essential nutrient for healthy maintenance by your body.
CDC website here tells more!
Caffeine and alcoholic beverages take water out of your system. Be sure to stay hydrated!
The image below could help you to pay attention to your body’s hydration needs. If your urine is dark, it is a good sign that you need to hydrate.
Tip for the day: drink water each time you go to the restroom.
Happy Hydration!
Rebecca Funk, TAC Your Health Intern
BS in Community Health
Western Oregon University
Cleanse – it takes water to pick up the wastes from your body’s cellular/metabolic work
pH balance – your body works daily to balance your blood to the range of 7.35 to 7.45 pH. The water helps your body to maintain the pH scale your body needs.
Kidney health – your kidneys do work hard to filter out any toxics in your body. The kidneys need water to do the filter work.
Health – your body is made more than two-third of water. Water is an essential nutrient for healthy maintenance by your body.
CDC website here tells more!
Caffeine and alcoholic beverages take water out of your system. Be sure to stay hydrated!
The image below could help you to pay attention to your body’s hydration needs. If your urine is dark, it is a good sign that you need to hydrate.
Tip for the day: drink water each time you go to the restroom.
Happy Hydration!
Rebecca Funk, TAC Your Health Intern
BS in Community Health
Western Oregon University
High Fructose Corn Syrup
High-fructose corn syrup (HCFS) is a processed
simple sugar. It was from cornstarch that has been broken down by acids
and enzymes. It was commonly used because it is easy to make, cook, and
cheaper to produce. HCFS is short-term carbohydrate (sugar) energy. It
does not stay in your body long compared to starch like potato. The
carbohydrate from the potato stays longer in your body.
HCFS was being used since 1970’s. Today, more than half of our food products have HCFS. I look at a product’s ingredient list when I do grocery shopping. If the product has HCFS, I will not buy it. This is because I would want to have more stable energy.
I call HCFS a sugar bomb because your body breaks down HCFS at a high rate compared to a complex carbohydrate such as an apple. When I eat an apple, my body breaks down the glucose at a slower rate. In this way, it provides me more stable energy during my day.
In CM Brown et al. (2008) study, researchers has found HCFS poses higher risk for cardiovascular and metabolic diseases. Researchers also discussed that the sugary drinks such as soda provide less satiety (Brown, et al., 2008). In other words, a person could be hungry still.
Choose wisely!
Rebecca Funk, TAC Your Health Intern
BS in Community Health
Western Oregon University
Reference
Brown, C. M., Dulloo, A. G., & Montani, J. P. (2008). Sugary drinks in the pathogenesis of obesity and cardiovascular diseases. International Journal Of Obesity, 32S28-S34. doi:10.1038/ijo.2008.204
HCFS was being used since 1970’s. Today, more than half of our food products have HCFS. I look at a product’s ingredient list when I do grocery shopping. If the product has HCFS, I will not buy it. This is because I would want to have more stable energy.
I call HCFS a sugar bomb because your body breaks down HCFS at a high rate compared to a complex carbohydrate such as an apple. When I eat an apple, my body breaks down the glucose at a slower rate. In this way, it provides me more stable energy during my day.
In CM Brown et al. (2008) study, researchers has found HCFS poses higher risk for cardiovascular and metabolic diseases. Researchers also discussed that the sugary drinks such as soda provide less satiety (Brown, et al., 2008). In other words, a person could be hungry still.
Choose wisely!
Rebecca Funk, TAC Your Health Intern
BS in Community Health
Western Oregon University
Reference
Brown, C. M., Dulloo, A. G., & Montani, J. P. (2008). Sugary drinks in the pathogenesis of obesity and cardiovascular diseases. International Journal Of Obesity, 32S28-S34. doi:10.1038/ijo.2008.204
Thursday, August 1, 2013
Breastfeeding
Breastfeeding is one of my favorite topics. To my surprise, I am actually
writing about breastfeeding on the first day of the breastfeeding month! August
is National Breastfeeding Month (click
here for the link). How cool is that?! CDC featured breastfeeding for this
reason, also! Click here
to see CDC's Breastfeeding feature.
I could write about the benefits of breastfeeding but I will try not be biased! For this reason, I will provide creditable articles and websites. I have met a few mothers who could not breastfeed for several reasons: her body would not make milk for no known reasons or the baby’s mouth was deformed – please respect. It is as if it is not happening in nature for her. It is similar with someone who has lost hearing or sense of smell for no known reasons. It is not her fault – heck, it is nobody’s fault!
The mothers can always do her best in effort to have best prenatal and postnatal care possible. Just an FYI, there are programs available that can help with expecting mothers. Please allow me to provide some ideas for you to find in your area: county health departments, church or community organization, Women and Infant and Child (WIC) program (website: http://www.fns.usda.gov/wic), local hospital, and more!
This blog is for mom or mom-to-be who wants to learn more about breastfeeding and the benefits. I have seen a forum once in the past – about 7 years ago that they have an organization where mom could donate breast milk and the organization can give breast milk to babies. I believe it was through the le leche league.
Below are the pros and cons about breastfeeding of my own. Here is the link of pros and cons on WebMD. I hope you as a mother could tackle down any barriers you may face about breastfeeding as it has benefits for you and your baby. Do not feel embarrassed to ask for any help if needed! I am glad I did!
Pros:
Speaking of breastfeeding challenges, I recall frustrations with breastfeeding my babies on the first day. I think the lactation nurse is a huge help with the mother’s breastfeeding challenges. If you experience frustration still after meeting a lactation nurse at a hospital or clinic, try to see if you could see a different lactation nurse. You could also try your child pediatrician’s lactation nurse. Do not give up! Do not forget WIC and/or the le leche league! They might have some referrals. They also have wonderful resources on breastfeeding and breastfeeding supplies. Some areas have Moms Club where mothers can connect with the other mother for support.
Mothers can still breastfeed while working full time by using the pump. For information about the pump at work, click here. I used to work full time at a large corporation and they had a lactation room, which was really nice. Not many places have a lactation room, but the good news, they are required to allow you to pump if they employ more than 50 employees. Go to the above link and learn more about the law of breastfeeding and pumping at work and in public. Here is the state of Oregon:
Oregon Rev. Statue ruling in Oregon
Again, WIC, le leche league, lactation nurse, and breast pump manufacturers are wonderful places to go to and learn about breast pump and storage system. The most popular brand is Medala. Do not buy used equipment due to health concerns. WIC will be able to guide you through the rental process with them. More and more mothers are breastfeeding their children and the article explain here.
Breast milk is the baby's best food in the whole wide world! Bottle/formula is good, too! I admit, sometimes I like formula because with it, the baby gets full quick.
Happy Feeding – breast milk or bottle!
~Rebecca
I could write about the benefits of breastfeeding but I will try not be biased! For this reason, I will provide creditable articles and websites. I have met a few mothers who could not breastfeed for several reasons: her body would not make milk for no known reasons or the baby’s mouth was deformed – please respect. It is as if it is not happening in nature for her. It is similar with someone who has lost hearing or sense of smell for no known reasons. It is not her fault – heck, it is nobody’s fault!
The mothers can always do her best in effort to have best prenatal and postnatal care possible. Just an FYI, there are programs available that can help with expecting mothers. Please allow me to provide some ideas for you to find in your area: county health departments, church or community organization, Women and Infant and Child (WIC) program (website: http://www.fns.usda.gov/wic), local hospital, and more!
This blog is for mom or mom-to-be who wants to learn more about breastfeeding and the benefits. I have seen a forum once in the past – about 7 years ago that they have an organization where mom could donate breast milk and the organization can give breast milk to babies. I believe it was through the le leche league.
Below are the pros and cons about breastfeeding of my own. Here is the link of pros and cons on WebMD. I hope you as a mother could tackle down any barriers you may face about breastfeeding as it has benefits for you and your baby. Do not feel embarrassed to ask for any help if needed! I am glad I did!
Pros:
- Immune system
- Intelligence
- Mother/child bond
- Money saver
- Mother can lose weight
- Uterus returns to original size faster
- Good excuse to sit down and do whatever you want to do such as watching a favorite TV or movie while breastfeeding
- Baby gets less illness
- Takes time to thaw the frozen breast milk since it cannot be microwaved for health risk reasons
- Storing the breast milk and keeping it cold
- Patience
- Breastfeeding cannot be on the go (I admit I am always on the go. However, let’s take this to a positive side, it is a good excuse to slow down your life!)
Speaking of breastfeeding challenges, I recall frustrations with breastfeeding my babies on the first day. I think the lactation nurse is a huge help with the mother’s breastfeeding challenges. If you experience frustration still after meeting a lactation nurse at a hospital or clinic, try to see if you could see a different lactation nurse. You could also try your child pediatrician’s lactation nurse. Do not give up! Do not forget WIC and/or the le leche league! They might have some referrals. They also have wonderful resources on breastfeeding and breastfeeding supplies. Some areas have Moms Club where mothers can connect with the other mother for support.
Mothers can still breastfeed while working full time by using the pump. For information about the pump at work, click here. I used to work full time at a large corporation and they had a lactation room, which was really nice. Not many places have a lactation room, but the good news, they are required to allow you to pump if they employ more than 50 employees. Go to the above link and learn more about the law of breastfeeding and pumping at work and in public. Here is the state of Oregon:
Oregon Rev. Statue ruling in Oregon
| Or. Rev. Stat. § 109.001
(1999) allows a woman to breastfeed in a public place. (SB 744) Or. Rev. Stat. § 10.050 (1999) excuses a woman from acting as a juror if the woman is breastfeeding a child. A request from the woman must be made in writing. (SB 1304) Or. Rev. Stat. § 653.075, § 653.077 and § 653.256 (2007) allow women to have unpaid 30-minute breaks during each four-hour shift to breastfeed or pump. Allows certain exemptions for employers. (HB 2372) |
Again, WIC, le leche league, lactation nurse, and breast pump manufacturers are wonderful places to go to and learn about breast pump and storage system. The most popular brand is Medala. Do not buy used equipment due to health concerns. WIC will be able to guide you through the rental process with them. More and more mothers are breastfeeding their children and the article explain here.
Breast milk is the baby's best food in the whole wide world! Bottle/formula is good, too! I admit, sometimes I like formula because with it, the baby gets full quick.
Happy Feeding – breast milk or bottle!
~Rebecca
Sunday, July 28, 2013
Motivation
What is around you does matter. What kind of
motivation and needs you have do matter. These things affect your decision-making
about what you should eat and/or what should you do in your life each day.
Autonomy, competence, and relatedness (ACR) are part
of the self-determination theory that could affect your motivation (Deci &
Ryan):
1. What
do you do (autonomy = doing things independently, being self-sufficient)
2. What
you can do (competence = skills, capability)
3. What
you can relate (relatedness = what do you understand, what can you connect your
motivation with)
ACR could help with your decision-making (volition)
about your health. You could decide if you want good things for you, your
family, and/or your friends. When you choose a change from an unhealthy to a
healthier habit, you would become interested. You could have an interest to
learn and become motivated.
The ACR is the process of acquiring knowledge or
learning about new things, learning a new skill, and making a new connection
about a certain topic you are interested. Only you can control what is around
you, what you buy, what you eat, what you do, and whom do you hang out or talk
with.
You could try a new skill by taking a class, read
about it, and making a new connection. For example, you are curious about yoga
because you have heard about it from a friend. You decided to go to a fitness
club or a studio that offers yoga classes. You also decided to browse on the
Internet to learn more. You found a group page on Facebook that offers tips and
ideas about yoga. You would be more likely to acquire a new skill, knowledge,
and connection. With these three components, you are more likely to be
motivated to do fitness (physical activity) or a health change.
In addition, with ACR you become self-sufficient
because you develop self-efficacy (Rouse, et al., 2011). Click here for
wonderful article about self-efficacy and tips. My blogs have some other topics
that could also help. ACR also offers
well-being, optimal function, self-control, and life goal(s) (Deci, 2008). Another great article to read about what drives your health and wellness.
Here are some tips to be motivated and/or to stay
motivated:
·
De-clutter!
o
Remove any negativity and barriers that
could get in your way with your effort to do a fitness and/or with a health
change
·
Support Person!
o
Find a person who is positively
supporting you with your physical activity or a new health change
o
If the person criticizes you, try to ask
not to do criticize such as “I would appreciate to get some positive support. I
am doing the best I can.” If no change, change your support person.
o
Support system is important to you and
anyone who wants to improve health
·
Motivation!
o
Find your motivation – what motivates
you in a healthy way
o
Try to be self-motivated by talking with
someone (in person or on a social media), hobby, reading a good book, or
reading a creditable article
·
Start small!
o
You can always build from there
·
Keep trying!
o
Do not stop thinking about your new
health change, stay at it even you relapse. The more you think about it, the
more likely you will stay with it
·
Seek information or education!
o
Do not be afraid to talk with anyone about
fitness…they might have great tips! More than one person is super!
·
Journal!
o
Always write down what you did and what
you ate
o
Sometimes catching a pattern helps
·
Move on!
o
Turn away from the negativity – it drags
down the energy!
·
Positive!
o
Your brain releases a happy hormone when
you smile and/or laugh
·
Social!
o
It is good for you because it is
healthy!
o
It
is ok to find a different group (in person or social media) if you feel it is
not a good fit for you
·
Attention!
o
Paying attention to the things you do
daily is a good idea
o
Listen to your body
o
Sometimes giving attention is hard to
do, try readjust your motivation and thinking to more of positive ones
o
Notice peer pressure – a social or peer
pressure is something you definitely can ignore
·
Me!
o
Find out what works for you – for
example, not all can be a runner
o
Find tools that works for you
·
Quality of Life!
o
ACR helps with a new health adherence (Williams,
et al., 2009)
o
ACR improves quality of life (Williams,
et al., 2009)
·
Benefits!
o
Learn about the benefits of a health
change or a physical activity
o
It helps you to stay motivated because
it is beneficial to understand the benefits!
The Self-Determination Theory model as shown below
is helpful to see how one person can volitionally decides to opt for a health
behavior change and its benefits (Ryan, et al., 2008).
References
(ND)
Deci, E., & Ryan, R. Self-Determination Theory. http://www.selfdeterminationtheory.org.
Retrieved from Google search on July 17, 2013.
Deci,
E. L. (2008). Self-determination theory: A macrotheory of human motivation,
development and health. Canadian Psychology, 49, 182-185.
Ryan,
R. M., Patrick, H., Deci, E. L., & Williams, G. C. (2008). Facilitating
health behaviour change and its maintenance: Interventions based on
self-determination theory. The European Health Psychologist, 10,
2-5.
Rouse,
P. C., Ntoumanis, N., Duda, J. L., Jolly, K., & Williams, G. C. (2011). In
the beginning: Role of autonomy support on the motivation, mental health and
intentions of participants entering an exercise referral scheme. Psychology
and Health, 26, 729–749.
Williams,
G. C., Patrick, H., Niemiec, C. P., Williams, L. K., Divine, G., Lafata, J. E.,
Heisler, M., Tunceli, K., & Pladevall M. (2009). Reducing the health risks
of diabetes: How self-determination theory may help improve medication
adherence and quality of life. The Diabetes Educator, 35,
484-492.
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