Tough Love Men or Terrible Twos-like Men?

It took me a long time to realize that men are actually sensitive. They are fragile. They are delicate. They only can be tough as love or they can be weak but act tough.  When men are weak like the devil, they fall for materialism, worldly things, sex, media, and do all kinds of abuses with or without their acknowledgment. In other words, they may or may not be abusing another person unwittingly. If they know they are hurting others, then they must be fighting so hard not to cry or look at faults even these faults weren't his.

Men were modeled to be dominant. Men were taught to be tough. Men were taught to suppress their emotions. So, with their suppressed emotions, they find another way to release their outlet in unhealthy ways. The unhealthy ways vary widely from passive to aggressive behaviors that can harm other people including their loved ones. They also can act like terrible twos. They overcompensate for their painful experiences and/or background through negative emotions and/or behaviors.

Men who are loved care about others, period. They will work hard for others. They love themselves so much that they can love their significant others. In other words, they flourish their loved ones. They have a high level of respect for themselves and others. They even will stay that way. They would not allow anything to change him regardless how extremely difficult things can be.

I don't have brothers or boys myself but I do know this: raise boys with love, lots of love; teach and model them problem-solving; and provide unconditional love inside out.

I have seen men change from being abusive to lovable. He has to choose to change himself.  "He loves his wife loves himself." Ephesians 5:28  This verse means that he has to love himself before he can love others. This also applies to anyone including women and children.